Just that day I read on a parenting website that one should love a child for their imperfections.
But that got me thinking, since you ‘catch’ more of what your papa and I ‘feel’, more than what we say or do, then, as an adult, if I am imperfect, do I still love myself?
Perhaps this is a good time to review some notes on ‘self worth’ and ‘self esteem’ I had pulled together some years ago as worthy reminders…
Self-esteem is that ability to like and love oneself, and feel worthwhile, despite all the ups and downs of life.
It is our values…beliefs…and personal thoughts…day after day…by which we define our worth.
With a healthy self-esteem, we like ourselves for ourselves and not because we can, or cannot do something.
Perhaps we should stop judging ourselves by what happens to us in life, so we do not base our confidence on outside events.
We can forgive ourselves and others for past mistakes. Harbouring old grudges takes up a lot of time and energy we could be using in other productive ways.
Learn to think differently. When we fall into self-criticism and non-confident thoughts, note those, and change them to positive thoughts.
Let’s set goals on what we can realistically do, and then work, step-by-step, to develop that potential.
Keep repeating to ourselves our strengths. Focus on what we are able to do.
We can remember self-confidence and self-esteem are learned, not inherited.
Therefore, lack of confidence does not have to be permanent.
Since lack of confidence and lack of positive self-esteem are both learned, they can be replaced by new learning.
Exercise self compassion which is, patience and kindness, shown to oneself.
We should be valuing ourselves, simply, for being human.
You got this!
From : Mum